I didn't like the way my physical exam encounter went with this FNP. She gave unsolicited advice about my diet and nutritional intake. She also made too many unimportant referrals away from the appointment that had nothing to do with the primary reason I was there. She basically fat-shamed me and spoke to me like I had no common sense throughout the appointment. Little does she know, I work in the medical field myself, so I know the proper way to perform an evaluation and create a treatment plan while conducting a motivational interview of the patient resulting in a shared decision-making process with said patient. That requires asking the patient why they came to the visit in the first place, listening to their needs, and THEN collaborating on a treatment plan tailored to their needs. She did the opposite. She steam-rolled through generic nutritional facts, stretching exercises, and physical activity recommendations without even asking me what I do on a daily basis to manage my own health. I didn't come to this visit for that reason. It's also important to note, in more contemporary medical journals, BMI has been debunked from being the gold standard for healthy wealth management. She was giving me antiquated information (again, I know this because I'm a practicing health professional), without even having my lab results to make a more holistic clinical decision about my presentation. I only came to this appointment to ensure I got my annual mammogram scheduled. And yet, she didn't even address my concerns or listen to my needs until I interjected to advocate for the purpose of my visit. I had to listen to her lecture me about my diet and exercise for about 10 minutes before I could redirect her to the actual purpose of my visit. She was basically giving me generic talking points, like she was checking boxes, and not holding space for me to explain my health management routine. To be clear, I workout 4-5 days/wk for at least 45min doing kickboxing, yoga, and resistance training. I am a flexiterian-pescaterian (meaning I mostly eat mostly veggies and fruit, and seafood is my protein of choice). I know how to manage my health, as evidenced by my vitals during the visit and my lab work results. The whole discussion felt condescending and lacked any supporting evidence besides the number on a scale. I say all of this to say, her bedside manner and shared decision-making process was subpar.